Adult Friend Finder
Personal ads. Includes sections for bondage, discipline, fetishes, crossdressing.*

Alt.com Personal Ads
Find partners, penpals, friends, dates. Search categories include bondage, blindfolds, chains, cling film (saran wrap), crossdressing, domination, handcuffs, high heels, leather, foot fetish, spanking, roleplaying, whips, more. You can search by zip code or state, to see the people who are within driving distance of you.*

BDSM Contacts UK
Find your match. Mistresses, slaves, masters, TV's, more.*

BDSM Realities Personals

Beauty Found at Beauty Bound
Personal ads, also bondage topics, Midori's Lair.

Bondage-Inc
BDSM forum which strangely has a lot of sections for non BDSM posts. Personal ad section which strangely has half of its categories devoted to Vanillas.

Bondage.com Personal Ads
Bondage.com is a large BDSM community and a bondage and fetish website. Register for a free account and get bondage and fetish pictures and video, BDSM personals, stories, and BDSM/fetish community forums.*

Brian's Page
Discussion forums for bondage scenes in movies and on TV. Also other forum topics.

Chatropolis Chatrooms
Scroll down the list to get to the BDSM/fetish rooms.

DreamMall BDSM Personal Ads

Ethereal Realms
Chat site for role-playing and/or community connections.*

Fetish Scene
Bondage/BDSM/fetish parties, gatherings, clubs, groups, conventions, munches, organizations. Listings organized by U.S. state, other countries.

FetishCon
Annual bondage/fetish convention, hosted by Vesta, Stacy Burke, Genesis Lynn and friends. Convention formerly known as BondCon NYC.*

Gabbia.com
Italian personal ads site. Some bondager listings. In Italiano and English.

Kinkd Up
Community website mainly for the UK BDSM scene. Personal ads, mistress directory, forums. Hosted by my longtime buddy Stan.

LoveTied Personal Ads
A place to hook up with people of similar bondage interests.

Mistress Match
BDSM personals, femdom, explanation of the most common BDSM practices.*

Notes on Safety for Meeting
Criminal cases of murder, stalking, sexual assault, and abuse committed under the guise of consensual BDSM. Be careful when chatting online, giving out personal information, and meeting people!

Sacred Devotion: Master & Slave Forum
Forum community for couples or singles who wish to learn more, or share information about, a monogamous BDSM lifestyle. Hosted by Master A and boundkitten.

Second Life - Chat World
Visit Lorelei's bondage island in this adult chat world, where you assemble a unique cartoon person to be you, then interact with other people. You can chat, smile, wave at other people, jump with joy, and yes do bondage, and even have sex with other people. Bondage castles and other fun places to explore. Basic access is free. (When you arrive, send a message to "Lorelei Mission"!)*

Second Life force fantasies: Cait's Basement
Virtual chat and cyber-sex roleplay area for people interested in force fantasies. Free area hosted by CaitsBasement.com. Greater virtual world hosted by SecondLife.com.

Seducity Virtual World
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subslaveXchange
Owner/slave personals. Community of dedicated people interested in an Owner/slave lifestyle.

Threshold Los Angeles - Yahoo Group
Forum to meet members of the Threshold BDSM/fetish club. (Local members include Lorelei & Jon, Dorothy Laine & Tim and other bondage aficionados.) Hang out and talk about BDSM/fetish, or ask questions about the club and its parties, gatherings and events.*

Yahoo's list of BDSM personal ad sites